Wednesday, January 22, 2014

Loving Lizzy

“Some of us think holding on makes us strong; but sometimes it is letting go.” -Hermann Hesse

Eight years old and I walked into the pet store and bought the cutest of them all, a lady lizard that I named “Lizzy.” I did everything with her: she met my parents, she met my friends, and we went on long walks. I made sure that I provided for her as best as I could, I spent hours hunting down and bringing her the most delicious crim de la crim of crickets. She would always eat them but I never heard her say, “thank you.” I’d pet her affectionately, but because she was a reptile she was incapable of reciprocating my affection. At an early age I learned a valuable life lesson not just about lizards but also about people: Some people are incapable of loving us the way that we deserve. If you’re the one investing everything—always picking up the tab, driving long distances, helping them with their problems AND your personal concerns fall on deaf ears—then very likely you’re in a parasitical relationship. I’m not saying that there aren’t times you shouldn’t help people, but some people are like Toby Keith’s song, “I’m all about me, I’m all about I, I’m about number one on my me my.” If you stay in a parasitical relationship when you don’t have to, then like a vampire they will suck the life out of you. Get out! Let vampires keep on sucking, but just don’t let it be on you.

There are "friends" who destroy each other, but a real friend sticks closer than a brother (Proverbs 18:24, NLT).

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